Ok so here it goes. I have done a lot of studying on sexual addiction looking for an answer. I am engaged, me and my fiance have been together for 4 years. For 3 of those years I was faithful in the physical sense, yet I would still talk to other men about sex and had the urge to sleep with them. I was able to control myself up until one night...I cheated on my fiance and have been almost weekly since then. Not just with one person....one time I had gotten up to 5 men in one month. I am so miserable. I do not want to be this person, something comes over me. I get very figgidy, impatient, angry, moody, snappy with everyone when it hits me...its like when I have the urge to have sex, nothing else matters and I am a complete different person until I get it...I hate who I am....I want to change but I feel like I can't.

Perhaps there is an uderlying issue, where you are using sex as a means of escape from feelings or to deal with anxiety. Remembe we get a huge chemical high from the act of sex of masturbation and that helps keep you hooked in. Maybe get some help form a counsellor and work on altrenative choices to deal with feelings and urrges, but also to explore you history and have a look at your life picture, see what is happening. Please dont be hard on yourself as many of us struggle with these issues....it dosnt mean we are bad people...its the act that is bad.